For every parent who feels like they’re drowning in the beautiful mess…

The alarm went off, but you were already awake again.

Your mind was spinning through today’s impossible equation: school lunches that need to be made, a presentation due at work, a toddler who refuses to wear anything but pajamas to daycare, and somewhere in between, you’re supposed to remember you’re also a human being with needs.

The coffee is cold before you take the first sip.

And before 8 AM, you’re already questioning everything.

Am I doing enough?

Am I present enough?

Am I loving them well when I’m this exhausted?

The Weight We Carry

We tell ourselves we should have it figured out by now.

That other parents seem to glide through bedtime routines while we’re negotiating with children over teeth brushing. That somehow we missed the manual on how to be fully present at work while your heart is split between conference calls and wondering if your child remembered their lunch money.

The guilt feels heavier some days than the laundry basket.

We carry the weight of wanting to be everything—the patient parent, the engaged employee, the present spouse, and the faithful friend. And when we fall short in any area, the whisper starts: “You’re not enough.”

But what if that whisper is lying?

Where Human Ends, Divine Begins

There’s a beautiful truth tucked into our exhaustion: we were never designed to run on empty.

“He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak.”

– Isaiah 40:29

When we reach the end of our capacity—and we will, because we’re human—that’s not failure. That’s the invitation.

The invitation to remember that our children don’t need perfect parents. They need authentic ones. Parents who admit their mistakes and apologize when they are wrong. Who prays out loud when they’re overwhelmed. Who shows them what it looks like to lean on something bigger than ourselves.

Grace isn’t just a theological concept. It’s oxygen for the parent who snapped too quickly at dinner. It’s peace for the mom crying in the parking lot after a challenging drop-off. It’s a strength for the dad who feels like he’s failing to balance providing and being present.

The Sacred in the Mundane

Your parenting isn’t happening despite the chaos—it’s happening through it.

In the third request for water after bedtime, you’re teaching patience.

In the way you handle mistakes, you’re modeling grace.

In the prayers you whisper while folding laundry, you’re creating holy space.

The kingdom of God isn’t built in the perfect moments. It exists in the ordinary moments, where love appears weary but still arrives.

You don’t need to be superhuman. You just need to be surrendered.

A Different Kind of Enough

What I wish someone had told me earlier is that your “enough” looks different than everyone else’s “enough.”

For you, enough might be reading one bedtime story instead of three because you’re running on fumes.

For you, enough might be ordering pizza instead of cooking because you spent your energy on a work crisis.

For you, enough might be an honest conversation with your child about why Mommy or Daddy was grumpy today.

Enough isn’t about perfection. It’s about presence. And sometimes presence means admitting you need help—from your partner, your community, and most importantly, from God.

“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.”

– Matthew 11:28

The Grace That Holds Us

Tonight, when you put your head on the pillow and the day’s failures replay in your mind, remember this:

You are seen. You are known. You are loved—not for what you accomplish, but for who you are.

Your children won’t remember every time you were too tired to play. They’ll remember that you were there. They’ll remember your hugs, your laughter, your apologies, and your prayers.

They’ll remember a parent who loved them enough to keep trying, even when trying felt impossible.

Grace isn’t just covering your mistakes—it’s empowering your love.

And tomorrow? Tomorrow you get to try again, held by the same grace that never runs out.

You’re not failing. You’re faithful.

And that’s enough.

Book Recommendation

If this message resonates with you, I highly recommend “Good Inside: A Guide to Becoming the Parent You Want to Be by Dr. Becky Kennedy (released November 15, 2023). Good Inside encourages seeing children (and ourselves) through a lens of compassion and trust. It’s about creating deep connections first, then guiding behavior with understanding, humor, and respectful authority. It’s a powerful toolkit for raising emotionally healthy, independent, and resilient children—while also nurturing confident, self-aware parents.

You can find it here on Amazon—it’s been a game-changer for so many parents in our community.

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